Isn't it better to give?

Isn’t it better to give than to receive?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/02/11/detained-american-mission_n_458475.html

Think of your mother and father and the tireless effort they put forth in rearing you and molding you into the beautiful creature you’ve become. Many of you may have grandparents aunts and uncles who stood in the gap when there was no parent willing or able to provide what you needed. NOW during the roughest times in your life did you stop and think geez I wish some rich white family would come and rescue me from poverty and adopt me.

If you are like me the thought has never crossed your mind. I wished my mama would win the lottery that she and my daddy would get back together… that my sister would sign a million dollar book deal and we could all move to a place in close proximity and my cousins and I could all be rich and do rich folk things like whatever they do that I’m not privy to. What I’m getting at is that I had hopes and dreams of a “better life” before I knew the truth, but none of those dreams included waking up with a white mom and dad.

As a young girl I remember adoptive parents who weren’t so good to their kids. A neighbor of ours adopted a little girl for a farm hand. I mean that’s how it appeared… the girl had many farm chores in a community where not a lot of farming took place. The way the mother beat and worked the girl it appeared that’s all she was for.

We have to examine this country’s ailing child protective foster care system before we run around abroad flashing cash and promising “a better life”. Money doesn’t always equal better living. Often foster parents in the US hoard children in order to get the financial benefits therein. Have we stopped to question whether or not the tear washed faces of these “concerned” people are genuine? Who says the adoption agencies are genuine? Is it safe or responsible to give children to people outside of their cultural background especially since race is such a polarizing topic in the US? How can white people who can’t even be comfortable with the election and administration of a black president be expected to care for and nurture little brown potential leaders?

I understand everyone wanting to see the children having the best life possible. The problem is that we have equated money/assets with providing a stable home. If a person truly has a child's best interest at heart why not give to the families? Well you have no control it's all about control.

Personally, I believe that I can give my children the best possible guidance about life and what it takes to be a good person even living in the rubble or underneath a bridge. We have a personal family history that they will be far more disadvantaged without being exposed to it. I would just die if someone wanted to take my kids if California had a huge EQ and I had no job or home.

Children in Haiti don’t need a mass and fleeting exodus from Haiti without their families. They need for their families to be empowered to take care of the blessing that God has given them by fighting against world policies that undermine Haitians’ authority to take care of themselves. Do these people really just want to help or do they stand to benefit?